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Monthly Archives: January 2015

“Be daring, be different, be impractical; be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.”

Sir Cecil Beaton, British photographer (1904-1980)

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Sometimes, you feel like a parade, even if only on the inside. Changing your view point, or finding the silly in the mundane, is critical to surviving the stress. Laughter, loud and long, is good for your heart and spirit, even though others want to silence you.

One of the fond memories of fun things I have done, as a Mom, was going as a chaperone with my daughter’s class to the Smithsonian museum of Art & History. Luckily, my daughter is one of those free spirited, highly responsible, fairy dust spreaders in the Universe. What made it so much fun? We spoke in a British accent the whole time. Silly? Absolutely. But, she was a child who played along so her friends thought it was funny too. Everyone chimed in if able – on the bus or in the museum.

There are so many wrong turns we can make as a human being in our many roles and responsibilities. Some people will never understand a slightly twisted sense of humor or a quirky way of looking at things. Everything is so very serious — until you finally need a laugh and some extra serotonin.

But as Dr. Seuss said:

“I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it’s a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope. Which is what I do, and that enables you to laugh at life’s realities.

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may you never forget

These are the ones that made my list. What are some of the things you have learned along the way?

Life is too short to wallow in someone else’s muck.

As long as you can still find something to laugh about, you are doing alright.

No matter how hard you try to rationalize someone else’s bad behavior, you won’t feel better about how badly they treated you.

Even a psychiatrist cannot change a light bulb if it is not willing to change…..and there are some pretty dim bulbs out there.

Choosing to isolate yourself is always more empowering than letting other people exclude you.

There is no such thing as too much kindness or compassion.

If someone (or more than one) asks “How Are You?” as they keep walking past you, they don’t really care about the answer.

You will never find out who you really are if you are only willing to look as far as your mirror.

You don’t have to give birth to change the life of a child.

Choose to smile at someone and go the extra mile. It is not for them anymore, it is just for you and your dignity.

No matter how bad, or insecure, you may feel about yourself, ultimately, you will have enough self-esteem to keep someone else from putting you down. Trust me, it really is there.

It is OK to acknowledge the fear and the anxiety in daily situations and keep going.

If you have forged a new path, make it easy for someone to follow.

Your parents are not 100% wrong all the time. Leave some room in your life for error.

You are never responsible for someone else’s bad behavior. They are. Nothing you could ever do will make someone else behave badly unless he or she chooses to act that way.

Quitting is hard, and can affect your confidence, but there is strength in knowing when enough is enough.

There will always be people who have more than you. But, there will always be people who have less.

Say “please” and “thank you” to anyone who does something for you or helps you. Even if you pay them, they still deserve the respect and courtesy of good manners.

There is only one true Judge and it does not have to be me.

Charity is not just giving money. It is a state of mind and an act of being.

It is OK to cry and to grieve your losses no matter how little, or how much, time has passed. It comes in waves, and when the swells rise, the tears will fall.

Remember that it is normal and human to cry and grieve and that those who think it is “negative,” or tell you not to cry, or avoid you, have their own mental and emotional issues to sort out. Being human and empathetic is the way we were created to behave in these circumstances.

You can empathize with people if you have experienced difficult and life-searing changes and are honest about them. People can see phony from a mile away.

In the end, it does not matter how much you have or how much you spent. It matters if you were a mensch (human being).

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Thank you so much for stopping by. It means more than you know.

PLEASE feel free to add your own lessons learned as there is so much more I need to know.

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surround yourself with dreamers

The person waiting for you to fail is not leading you to success, but he is assuring you that there is more kindness waiting for you down the road.

There are plenty of happy people who are saying nothing and sad people who speak from the heart and experience. The sad people are much more interesting.

Life is not always perfect and it is not always kind. But if I can hold a dream ahead of me, without knowing how or when, then I have something better to look forward to.

Positive change is much more fun than status quo (even if it is scary).

Dreamers have enough imagination to let each person find his or her way in their own good time.

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