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quote_patience seeing past the emotion

When I saw the daily prompt word, many thoughts came to mind that combined patience, compassion, empathy….  and then considered that if I considered myself to be patient on occasion, my family would argue loudly that it just isn’t so.

So, then I chose to look up the official definition of “patience” to see if I might ever qualify.

noun
1. the quality of being patientas the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain,without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.
2. an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay:

to have patience with a slow learner.
3. quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence: to work with patience.

In the work that I do, I try very hard to have patience with some of those I encounter because they need my compassion.  With others, there is arrogance or entitlement or other characteristics that set me ticking, but as I withhold my tongue, doesn’t that count as patience too?

If one of the definitions is perseverance, then there is a history of patience.  Some may call it perseverance (and have quite kindly); to others it is stubbornness to step aside.  Long-term histories with people and places, despite many ups and downs, is an endeavor to apply perseverance in the form of a long term commitment to continue moving forward.

Saying a brief prayer before my philanthropic meetings for patience and compassion is a commitment as well to try to be fully present for those in front of me struggling with many tests of faith and existence.  When I have been complemented on my patience and how I spoke with them, I have let them know that there are those at home who would disagree…..

We each have a certain amount of patience and it comes out at different times. For me, it may not be when I am driving, nor when the level of nonsense and untruth exceeds my barometer for tolerance of such things, yet it is there for making a dough or searching for just the right recipe.

There is patience in trying to learn or continually consider, through introspection and thought, how to improve the quality of my life or myself.  It has been a long time and I still have much to learn and have not given up that search.

Trying to bite my tongue when someone is upset, or will not be convinced of my merit if I try to explain, is a form of patience.  It is allowing the other person to continue to express their opinion whether I agree with it or not.  It is a commitment to keep moving forward with a relationship that is meaningful to me and hoping that in time all will continue to improve.

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quote_george bernard shaw_face

 

The focus is the soaring height of the historical architecture and while there are crowds of people, deep in their individual prayers, they are connected in their faith and focus on the Western Wall of the 2nd temple in Jerusalem.  The second temple was finished in 516 BC and stands as a testament to religious freedom and survival for over 2,500 years.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Second_Temple

face in the crowd_kotel

From excavations in the Jewish Quarter, walkways and columns, as well as stalls and other evidence of daily life, were discovered dating back to the 6th century AD.  The “Cardo” was the main street in ancient Roman cities.  The Cardo still stands as a piece of history where people can see what architecture and life was like historically.  The history and ancient buildings draw in the eye as people walk by on cobblestones thousands of years old.

http://www.rova-yehudi.org.il/sites/the-cardo/

face in the crowd_cardo

Jerusalem stands as the home and birthplace for three religions.  It welcomes all pilgrims and those who seek to appreciate its beauty and historical significance.

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cohen twins walking down the street

 

When it comes to sweet, it generally involves children or dessert.  Our families are important to us and building loyalty and responsibility for one another begins by being taught those values in the home from an early age.

My husband and I have loved this photo from the moment we saw it.  My twin grandsons, who were three years old at the time, were taking a walk down the street with their parents.  Sibling love and support, when it exists, is something I consider to be sweet and to be cherished.

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you are so nice its annoying

 

When you choose to operate out of concern and empathy for others and their feelings, you generate suspicion in those who don’t understand such a concept.  I have experienced the dissatisfaction of dealing with people who look for the easy, avoidant, and half-fast way, of doing things.  There are people who figure out the benefit to them and figure that everyone else has to clumsily peddle through, even if they are drowning.

I simply cannot fathom this kind of thinking.  My upbringing was public in some ways and we knew that how we behaved would reflect on our parents and family.  We were taught to be upright, share, think about how another might feel, and reach out to give a smile first.  Also, if your hands aren’t broken, think about the next person.

Today, I have found that this kind of attitude freaks some people out.  They don’t get it and figure that there must be something nasty lurking beneath the supposed façade that draws their ire and suspicion.  There is some perverse desire to convince others that it’s not all sunshine and rainbows (not that I think it all is, I am too introspective for that).   Have you had this experience?

My empathy is not based on anyone else’s expectation.  There are those who do expect it from me regardless of how they treat me; some people will take advantage of sensitive and empathetic personalities.  What can be a weakness is also a blessing.  I see and feel too much with concern about others’ needs, often more than my own.  But, I also recognize the signs of pain, embarrassment, fear, sadness, and desperation in others that requires a special and careful way of speaking to comfort.  My awareness and memory of peoples’ words, actions, behavior and energies means that I can assess things pretty quickly.  But, it would be nice to be wrong and see a person grow, improve or change for the better, and that is when I have hoped for too long for things to be different.

The hard part is when I try to seek the good, or trust deep down, that I would give no less of to people, and it is abused.

When someone told me that they have struggled to find nice people and that they weren’t letting go of me, I realized just what a confession and compliment that was.  So, in cases of suspicion, let me clarify:  I am not getting anything out of it.  My behavior is a reflection of my values and respect.  Yes, I really can be so concerned.  But, no, I cannot be taken advantage of indefinitely.  Sadly, what I have had to learn from suspicious people is that there is a reason they are so suspicious and it generally has nothing to do with me directly.

Approach me honestly, and openly, and I will return the effort while we both try to bring back some restored faith in humanity.

suspicious minds_tom hanks

 

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