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“Believe me, every heart has its secret sorrows, which the world knows not, and oftentimes we call a man cold, when he is only sad.”

– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, Hyperion

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Grief is not a competition.  Sadness has no limit.  Physical or mental pain is not on a scale in comparison to any other individual.

Again and again, I am reminded that people who have not experienced what we have, feel that they are entitled to tell you how long, how much, or how valid your feelings are.  Can you tell me why I don’t like eggplant?  Can you tell me why I don’t like the color brown?  Of course not; we are individuals with a lifetime of experience and determination of our needs, likes, dislikes and depth of emotion and intuition.

Some people are very vocal about every ache and pain.  Others hide it in shame or fear.

You are entitled to your pain and grieving.  No matter how much time has passed, if you are still mourning, no one has the right to tell you to “get over it.”  Some heartaches never go away.

If you are in pain today, I hope you are sent healing.  If you are mourning, I hope that you find some comfort, or at least a hand to hold while you cry.  If you are feeling so alone in your sadness or grief, please know that anyone else who has actually experienced a great loss will never try to silence yours, but will understand that some wounds never heal.  

You are still putting one foot in front of another.  You are a survivor.



Thank you for stopping by.  I hope that you find comfort here.

In memory of Mom.



When I need a boost of empathy and inspiration, Brene Brown is a favorite source.  There is no shame in having ups and downs. In fact, the vulnerability is more honest than a more superficial answer.  I like depth and intelligent conversation.  I like people who speak the truth and try to live it.  Rising up and trying to keep going is a strength. It is hard when you feel you are pushing through all alone, but the resilience and effort mean that you have not given up.

There are toxic situations and heartbreaking losses.  Grief, fear, anger, loss, and disappointment are real; they grab hold as they keep us teetering on the edge.

Keep going.  Honor your personal sense of integrity no matter how others behave. Speak the truth.  Remember who you are and all that you are capable of.  Don’t lose sight of the core of strength, empathy, and compassion.  We are a work in progress and hope and grace have no end.



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I want justice, hope, peace and empathy.  Standing up for an ideal and creating hope sounds like the kind of change I want to see in the world.

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