Clarity begins with knowing and accepting who you are.
For instance, any clothing item described as “rubberized lace” (yes, that actually exists), makes me wince, in private, and is a definite NO on my fashion list.
Videos of people falling down, getting hurt, locked in porta-potties, crashing, jumping through rings of fire – all get a big fat NO on my entertainment list.
Never had shellfish and am good with that. Truly, the idea of cracking the legs off of my dinner, and sucking out the bottom feeder belly, does the opposite of enhance my appetite. I have enough trouble manipulating a raw chicken.
I have never been a “misery loves company” type of person. When people interrupt me to tell me their stories along those lines, I don’t understand. I would never want that to happen to me, so why would I want that to happen to you? Yes, I learned the hard way. But if you did too, then why are you sharing the misery in your behavior towards me? Let’s seek comfort and empathy, rather than a competitive “can you top this?” Talk to me about survival and re-invention.
Self-knowledge is a good thing. Once we understand what we can accept, improve, change, tolerate, or avoid, perhaps we can share that kind of wisdom and understanding with others. Realizing what our experiences have taught us helps to create empathy. We have struggled with the aftermath of grief in its many forms.
For sensitive people, it takes courage to find the funny in the mundane. We are more easily attuned to the serious because we are so cautious about people getting hurt. Sometimes, a look at the whimsical and a healthy laugh are healing.
Of course, if they jump through rings of fire while wearing rubberized lace, they are on their own.
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