We write to inspire, to create, to carve out a piece of the world that belongs to us, but choose to share with others.
Yet, publicly expressing how we feel is scary. Some of us try to avoid controversy or conflict, in hopes of being kinder, gentler, and not succumbing to negative judgments. The reality is we are aware of more negative responses than positive ones.
Those who judge us most harshly, often choose not to see the truth, nor inquire at the source to find it, but pass along hearsay or false information pretending that it is real.
As they say, there are none so blind as those who will not see….
Telling the truth is controversial because it makes us vulnerable to those who would twist it or use pieces of it to create their version of reality. When did caring become so rare and gentle honesty removed from daily interactions? Having strong opinions leads to change, especially if we are willing to open our hearts and minds, in addition to our mouths.
Some people bully others into silence and we are told not to speak. So how can someone claim to know us by causing us to remain unheard?
A person who does not speak to me, nor respect my opinion, cannot claim to speak for me. Choosing to misrepresent the truth doesn’t make it so; it just creates conflict and controversy. If the point is to be the loudest person in the room, controversy will be achieved.
But, resolution and honest communication don’t stand a chance.