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I found this list to be an interesting compilation of characteristics and the nature of empaths. Some are spot on and some not as accurate. Yet, since there are so many types of highly sensitive and emotionally intuitive personalities, see how many describe you.

Here are 30 of the most common traits:

1. Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It’s a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.

2. Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums where there are lots of people around can fill the empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.

3. Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for empaths. To some they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from great distance.

4. Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.

5. You know when someone is not being honest: If a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.

6. Picking up physical symptoms off another: An empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains) especially those they’re closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.

7. Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the centre of the abdomen and it’s known as the seat of emotions. This is where empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an empath, will almost always be ungrounded.

8. Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an empath’s attention and compassion.

9. Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own.

10. Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.

11. Addictive personality: Alcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions that empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It is a form of self protection in order to hide from someone or something.

12. Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many empaths would love to heal others they can end up turning away from being healers (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily. Even at the revelation of what many others would consider unthinkable, for example, empaths would have known the world was round when others believed it was flat.

13. Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.

14. Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.

15. Need for solitude: An empath will go stir-crazy if they don’t get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.

16. Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.

17. Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It’s for this reason many empaths get labelled as being lazy.

18. Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.

19. Always looking for the answers and knowledge: To have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an empath and they will endeavour to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.

20. Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.

21. Abhors clutter: It makes an empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.

22. Loves to daydream: An empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.

23. Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an empath even poisoning.

24. Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.

25. Excellent listener: An empath won’t talk about themselves much unless it’s to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.

26. Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider another’s feelings or points of view other than their own.

27. The ability to feel the days of the week: An empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective are feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.

28. Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-hand: Anything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

29. Sense the energy of food: Many empaths don’t like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.

30. Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnected: Depending on how an empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An empath detests having to pretend.

With thanks, you can say yes to most or all of the above then you are most definitely an empath.


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It takes courage and strength to be so vulnerable that you can share your experience and attention with someone else. In observing someone else’s pain, we know the emotion because we have experienced it before. Each awareness of pain, or circumstance, does not make one weak. Rather, we approach it gently, with respect, since we know its power.

Once we can accept that it does not have to stop us from moving forward, we can reach out to someone else who needs a hand. Being empathetic does not mean being weak. It means being brave enough to know your own limits and realize that the person speaking to you has not found his yet.

Even if you can change nothing, you can extend kindness and compassion in listening. You are proof that quiet encompasses courage, awareness, and self-knowledge.

Thank you so very much for stopping by! I hope that you enjoy your visit.



What crackling energy and divinely given craft inspires writers to create works of fiction that move us beyond suspended disbelief into vast and varied emotions? Their words and images are powerful and remain with us long after we have finished a book. We are writers and storytellers; that is why we share our words. Somehow, a writer can create a world that surpasses anything else in our minds and moves us to deep passions, sorrow, love and longing.

My reading is voracious. On average, I read two to three novels a week. In those binge-reading times, I have spent eight hours on a book so I can finish it and reach the critical closure. There is a dance for those swayed by words; savoring a book to taste each word on our tongues like melted whiskey and chocolate. Or, a need to read more, and more, in hopes of swallowing the words as quickly as we can to grasp and absorb even more of the fiction.

An author has come back into my literary life that has sparked up all of these emotions. Diana Gabaldon was recommended to me almost twenty years ago in a tiny library in Ontario, Canada. The historical fiction, with ties to England and Scotland, certainly held connection to the Commonwealth country where I had first heard about her book. It is a realization when in Canada that English is not just English, but an extension of the Queen’s English, which makes all the difference.

Perhaps that is why the monarchy and passions of love, conflict, and freedoms appealed to me. I too was an Outlander at that time. Whatever the precise reason, the fiction stayed with me. I waited impatiently, like millions of other readers, for the next installment even though it would be years between completed projects.

Now that it is being brought to life on film, I have begun rereading the book series again. This time, I slipped into it easily, like a warm and comforting bath. Mind you, these books are long…Over 7,000 pages, in eight published volumes, stir us to the range of colorful emotions and the bawdy sense of love and adventure. Thousands more pages have been produced in novellas for the clamoring masses of our favorite characters and the Scottish laird and prisoner.

Reading is so solitary and all-consuming that it delivers tremendous empathy for the characters and writer. In actuality, popular authors elicit strong reactions within, and outside of, their books. Diana Gabaldon has achieved sales of more than 25 million books and her book Outlander is #1 on the New York Times bestseller list so many years after she began writing. It is a testament to her writing ability and creative genius that her books have risen to the top so many times.

What power the written word can have and how do the chosen few become authors of acclaim? What makes us react to a book that is over twenty years old? Or, perhaps it continues to grab us because it has shared twenty years of our lives and personal history. Through our ups and downs, fiction sustains us and allows us an escape wherever we may be. Such is the power of a well-written book.

Brought to film by Tall Ship Productions’ Ronald D. Moore and Maril Davis, gorgeously costumed by Terry Dresbach, and lovingly brought to life by the incandescent Sam Heughan and Catriona Balfe, Outlander has captured the hearts and minds of fans all over again. Lovingly, reverently, respectfully and faithfully, the words float in and out of our consciousness as we hear them again in the actors’ timbre. Adapted for television, the screenplay writers work to stay true to the power of the original words and the original vision of Diana Gabaldon’s pen to paper. With such adamant and ardent fans, the Outlander writers have no small task, but endeavor to achieve that separate peace in each episode.

What magic makes us want to carry these stirring words with us and need to share the deep passionate connection with others? There is an alchemy that exists within a writer’s hands to create a book that owns a piece of our soul over time. It is powerful and ephemeral, demanding and urgent, deserving to be written before it scatters away.

Books shape our lives and yet they all begin as one word on a blank page.

There is pleasure in putting words to paper and creating stories that stir our hearts and soothe our brains, shaping our thoughts into cohesive braids of imagination, creativity, fantasy, and drama. Whether a personal musing, or a view of a world not yet seen, a story is a dream of the seed that has not yet taken root.

Being thankful and appreciative of an author is not enough. It is only appropriate that we encourage, celebrate, and support writers and authors. I have great respect for the talented authors whom I know and the many who try to share to enhance the genre. There is no replacement, in any medium, for one who has the gifted ability to use words that conjure bliss within us that we did not know existed.

Thank you so much for stopping by! It means more than you know.
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