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“No one reaches out to you for compassion or empathy so you can teach them how to behave better.  They reach out to us because they believe in our capacity to know our darkness well enough to sit in the dark with them.”                       ― Brene Brown

Some people prefer superficiality; it means that they don’t have to invest or make any effort.  It is expedient and assures a lack of depth.  Yet, those same people expect, or demand, our utmost respect and loyalty.  You cannot access people’s most positive emotions while reflecting negative ones.  People cannot be bullied into love any more than they can feel safe or trusting with someone who denies their real selves.  Existing is not the same as authenticity.  Our deepest connections are forged with characteristics that lie below the surface: vulnerability, compassion, kindness, empathy, courage, hope, anxiety, fear, pain, inspiration, spirituality, gratitude, encouragement, and acceptance.

“The opposite of recognizing that we’re feeling something is denying our emotions. The opposite of being curious is disengaging. When we deny our stories and disengage from tough emotions, they don’t go away; instead, they own us, they define us. ”       Brene Brown

let there be an opening below the chaos

Confidence and courage is knowing that you have a story that is tearing you apart, but being able to share, as well as listen to another, with empathy and sensitivity.  Each of us has felt grief and despair; acknowledging it and being treated with dignity lightens the load, even for a brief moment. Ask anyone with an invisible illness how hard it is to carry on in pain and show the barest slice of the self on the surface.  It is a daily struggle.  No one deserves it nor brought it upon themselves.  Denying someone else’s pain is cruel and isolating.  There are others to whom we try to share our shame and our deepest trust is shattered adding to our lack of self-acceptance and access to external judgment.

“Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning and purpose to our lives.”       Brene Brown

its what you look like on the inside

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In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Advantage of Foresight.”

sometimes never know the value of a minute

In Nature’s eternal calm, man finds himself. The health of the eye seems to demand a horizon. We are never tired, so long as we can see far enough.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

There is no doubt to me that each minute, hour, day, or years wasted on people who do not deserve it takes a toll on our lives.  We make more excuses for other peoples’ bad behavior than fighting for all that we truly do deserve and developing our self-respect.

Foresight would have let me know that I could survive during the times I thought that I never would. It would have let me know that I would not fail, or fall off the face of the Earth, no matter what I attempted.  What a gift knowing that I did not miss out on a grand adventure!

For those that have no regrets, you are blessed that you have been able to accept and let it go. Or, perhaps, for those that have none, you are doubly blessed, and have not been tested in that way.

Our faith tells us that everything happens for a reason and every dash is part of the lifeline. Yet, still, we wonder about the path not taken and how one powerful choice might have changed the width and breadth of our lives.

Giving over the majority of our time to the duty and honor of others, we live in a fog of days. Suddenly, we turn around and years have magically drifted away…..

Had we known how our decisions affected us, or others, would we have made a change? What did we miss in trying to find our horizon?

How many more peaceful days could have been gained by knowing that the light really would be at the end of the tunnel?

To me, I will always question my choices on the last day of my loved one’s life.  What a waste of a precious day that, in hindsight, could have brought peace in a last goodbye.

We live, we consider, we conjecture and we determine. We plan, and G-d laughs, as if we were making the choices.

But given a gift of foresight, I would rather lose one day, than lose one day over and over ~ in my memories.

irish blessing foresight

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empathy symphony

 

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empathy quote_leaving a piece of your heart

It takes courage and strength to be so vulnerable that you can share your experience and attention with someone else. In observing someone else’s pain, we know the emotion because we have experienced it before. Each awareness of pain, or circumstance, does not make one weak. Rather, we approach it gently, with respect, since we know its power.

Once we can accept that it does not have to stop us from moving forward, we can reach out to someone else who needs a hand. Being empathetic does not mean being weak. It means being brave enough to know your own limits and realize that the person speaking to you has not found his yet.

Even if you can change nothing, you can extend kindness and compassion in listening. You are proof that quiet encompasses courage, awareness, and self-knowledge.

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