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Keep going and look for the humor.  As long as we are able to find something to smile about, however quirky, like us, we can rise to any occasion with an untapped inner strength.
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quote_abraham lincoln empathy

 

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respect

Relationships are very important to me and family is a priority in this lifetime.  Reaching out to love, yet respect differences, and accept accountability yet moving forward instead of attacking the past, is the best that a rational and emotionally mature person can prefer.

Some love confrontation or nurturing their anger; It is not helpful to strengthening or maintaining any healthy communication and reinforces the hurt dysfunction.  The dynamics don’t improve and the wounds persist.

The largest act of rebellion is working to change the context in a messy and complicated situation to one of self-preservation and fighting as hard, for yourself, as you have for others.  It is not easy for one who cares so deeply and, certainly, I have been an easy and satisfying target for verbal attack.

Trying to shift a mindset and ingrained habit of behavior is very difficult.  Many of us have prescribed roles and distinctions of thinking, reinforced by others, that we are supposed to save everyone and fix every situation, or we are at fault.

Mature relationships take both sides willing to accept that we can love one another while still disagreeing.  Respecting each individual, instead of trying to continue to wound with past patterns of negativity, is the only healthy way to move forward.  Growth and self-esteem take time, but self-respect and willingness to walk away from someone else’s anger, as hard as it is to do, is the only way to take the first step.

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i was quiet but i was not blind

This is one of many quotes that resonates with me.  I have been an observer all of my life and much of it has been of people.  As I have gotten older and lived through more experiences, I have been able to filter even more of those things that I have seen.  As an empathetic person, there have been people who have hurt, used (or misused), and abused my nature.  Wanting to believe the best of people can blind us to some and their true natures.  Since I could never imagine behaving that way, or treating another person in such a manner, it was shocking to me in the realization.

It has also become aware that people are not aware of the many aspects of their behavior that show over and over their nature and character beyond their words.  For example, someone who complains about the attention that they get and then does everything short of wearing spinning lights to get attention.  The words and actions do not correlate.

Another thing that has become clearer to me, over the years, is observing facial and body cues, and being able to understand without hearing the words how someone feels and how the communication is going.

That silence is a comfort for some who need some understanding and compassion without having to find the words, or speak about it before they are ready, to describe the hurt or loss that they have experienced.  At times, helping someone along by sharing that pain silently gives them strength and comfort.  If so, I am grateful to be able to provide such.

Being observant and empathic is a lot of stimulus.  Indeed, perhaps, life would be easier if I could turn away or not pay so much attention.  The aspects of my brain and personality just won’t do it.  I come from a long line of observers of human nature and whether through nature, or nurturing it over many years, this is who I am.  For those who seek it out, it is a compassion that they are grateful for.  To those who are interviewing, they have come to trust my opinion and confirmed what I have seen.

But, like many observers, seeing so much needs to be kept quiet, for the truth can be overwhelming for others who are not ready to see or have chosen to look away.

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