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Keep going and look for the humor.  As long as we are able to find something to smile about, however quirky, like us, we can rise to any occasion with an untapped inner strength.
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I don’t have a lucky rabbit’s foot or any other form of good luck charm.  My daily life has its own anxieties, but none that I could cure with a specific talisman.

However, one piece of jewelry remains with me and its presence has a very powerful influence upon me mentally and emotionally.  I am aware of the love and connection beyond time, the strength of a mother’s love, and the devotion to preserving memories of those who have come before and deserve to be honored long after their passing.

This particular necklace was 72 inches in length, in rose gold, and worn by my great-grandmother, Amalia.  As she had three sons and three daughters, at some point she chose to have the necklace broken into three separate chains, one for each of her daughters, as a legacy gift.

However, the gift became even more meaningful as it is literally the only physical item that we have from her other than our genetic makeup.

Exactly 80 years ago, in the devastating rise of the Reich and rampant anti-Semitism, my grandparents decided to leave Amsterdam for the safety of the United States. There was a great deal of paperwork, they needed to be sponsored by an uncle, and prove that they could support themselves with genuine employment skills and would not be a burden to the government of the United States.

This necklace was given to my grandmother, by her mother, at a train station in Amsterdam in 1938.  My grandmother was 25 years old and it was the last time that she would ever see her mother.

My great grandparents and my 12 year old great uncle were killed on September 24, 1943 in the Auschwitz concentration camp.  My grandmother was 52 years old.

All of the records of our family members’ birth and death dates, as well as the respective cities, was available from the Dutch Government Registry of Persons killed in the Holocaust.

During a trip to Holland in 1994, my mother collected and compiled all of the data that she was able to for her grandparents, first cousins, aunts, uncles, and great-grandmother. In all, more than 75 members of our family were killed in the Holocaust.  Many more relatives were not accounted for.  As my mother grew up with no extended family, she respected their lives with uncovering their stories and honoring their legacy.

My grandmother gave the necklace to me, her oldest granddaughter, in 1995.  My grandmother was 81 years old at that time.  She had many health issues that she survived including breast cancer and two heart attacks during her lifetime.  She felt that it was much more important to give her gifts to each of us “with a warm hand” rather than a cold one (after her death).  Throughout my grandmother’s life, until the time that she gave it to me, she never removed it from her neck and kept it close to her heart.  I believe that it pleased her as well to see her granddaughter, named after her mother, wear this necklace with pride and respect.

Perhaps, what gives it that spark of a talisman is that it continues to carry the strength of its history, love, and strong emotion each time that I wear it.

According to an actual appraisal from a professional jeweler, this necklace is not worth very much and may have a small boost in its value for strictly historic reasons.

As an actual link to family and my place on the chain of mothers and daughters, grandmothers and granddaughters, it is priceless and could never be replaced.

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More often than not, our lives don’t turn out the way that we envision.  Whether for good or bad, things change.  They always do, one way another, if we continue to do so.  Some people are happy with things as they are; others always dream of more and want to be inspired or find something to be excited about to awaken their creativity.

Some people play in a band, join a hockey or bowling league, or any other number of hobbies outside of their work life or daily exchanges.  It is important to find something that awakens our brain cells and engages us in enthusiasm.  There are so many artistic outlets that people have like photography, painting, crafting, renovating….. any number of DIY projects that add a spark to the daily necessities and business of life.

For me, I find wonder in things that others may deem mundane or without merit.  However, I need to find things that use my passions and bring satisfaction at seeing what I have brought forth.  To bring peace and pleasure to the mundane, looking for things that can bring us to wonder and happiness, even for a short time, allow us to dream more creatively and fill our spirits with Hope.

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One of the saddest sounds you will  hear is crying….  Genuine heart-wrenching sobs of helplessness, pain, fear, sadness.

I heard someone sobbing in the restroom at work, but I did not want to disturb her privacy.  A few minutes later, I saw her and asked how she was.  I did let her know that I heard her crying and was very empathetic to her situation.  It was heart-breaking to hear about the repeated bullying and terrible things that were said to her, but she deserved to be heard.  Words and actions can cause scars that are invisible from the outside.  She is a very strong person in her character and her faith, but everyone has a breaking point.  Sadly, all I could do was listen.

As emotionally and mentally mature and empathetic human beings, our instinct is to help, to heal, or to stand up for others who are unable to stand up for themselves.  We would never stand idly by while a child was bullied, yet millions of us do everyday while adults suffer these experiences on the job.

When I saw that the daily prompt was “Fact” I began writing this post.  I hesitated for the same reason that others do – no one wants retaliation, further abuse in the job, or having their employment threatened, and I did not know if I should mention it.  I experienced the same fear and anxiety about the topic, but another said that I should write the post and share the information. It certainly saddens me to see someone suffer so.   I felt that I had to see the facts for myself.

The employee walks on eggshells and is fearful of what is to come.  This is not healthy and certainly not conducive to a positive work environment. The choice for the target who cannot speak up is to leave; that does not resolve the lingering effects, or doubt, and creates a hole in a business to be filled by looking for someone new and training that individual.  That learning curve costs a company financially as well.

“Workplace bullying is on the rise.  While statistics vary, some studies reveal that nearly half of all American workers have been affected by workplace bullying, either as a target or as a witness to abusive behavior against a coworker.”  http://www.workplacebullying.org/individuals/problem/definition/

From the Workplace Bullying Institute:

Key Findings

• 19% of Americans are bullied, another 19% witness it
• 61% of Americans are aware of abusive conduct in the workplace
• 60.4 million Americans are affected by it
• 70% of perpetrators are men; 60% of targets are women
• Hispanics are the most frequently bullied race
• 61% of bullies are bosses, the majority (63%) operate alone
• 40% of bullied targets are believed to suffer adverse health effects
• 29% of targets remain silent about their experiences
• 71% of employer reactions are harmful to targets
• 60% of coworker reactions are harmful to targets
• To stop it, 65% of targets lose their original jobs
• 77% of Americans support enacting a new law
• 46% report worsening of work relationships, post-Trump election

The statistic is terrifying: Over 60 million people in the U.S. alone are impacted as targets or witnesses! I was shocked to see the statistics and the number of workers affected.  Yet, most times, it continues although others agree, witness silently, then walk away thankful that it is not them and out of fear for their own jobs.  So the cycle of abuse continues.  Most acts of verbal abuse, mobbing, isolation, and false rumors and lies are never reported.  Witnesses agree and observe the behaviors, but fear of getting involved or gratitude that it is not them affected, keeps anyone from taking action.

This information comes from the UK:

Mental Healthy takes a look at the facts, figures and real life stories which show that bullying in the workplace is a very real and serious problem for many adults today.

Did you know that…

  • 1 in 10 workers had been bullied in the past six months
  • 1 in 4 workers had been bullied in the last five years
  • 47% of workers had witnessed bullying at work.
  • There is almost an equal number of men and women who have reported bullying

(According to a large UK study on bullying at work published in 2000 by the University of Manchester Institute of Science and Technology (UMIST) and supported by the TUC)

 

workplace bullying infographic

It is not my nature to sit idly by while someone is affected; if there is something that can be done, I always want to take positive action to improve the situation.  Silenced targets have the same emotional, mental and physical symptoms of those who are victims of domestic abuse.  Understandably, people are angry and stressed with increased pressure in the business and financial world, however  bullying, demeaning, falsely accusing, spreading rumors and gossip, and threatening one’s employment is never appropriate behavior.

To read more about workplace bullying, you can review the following sites:

hhttps://au.reachout.com/everyday-issues/workplace-bullying

http://www.mentalhealthy.co.uk/other/mental-health/bullying-in-the-workplace.html

http://www.workplacebullying.org/

https://www.yourerc.com/blog/post/20-Subtle-Signs-of-Workplace-Bullying.aspx

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140723143757-143588541-examples-of-bullying-in-the-workplace

http://www.kickbully.com/lists.html

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