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Authenticity is a popular word today and used in so many variations from a hashtag anthem to self-awareness.  In its origin, from the Greek “authenticos” it came to mean genuine, and ultimately, trustworthy, as it referred to someone’s authority or recognized  signature.   In the Art world, a signed piece of art always needs to be “authenticated” to assure that it is legitimate.

While being authentic means to be genuine, rather than fake or copied, it was meant to be a representation of the vulnerable and flawed, but still beautiful, parts of ourselves.    People don’t want to have to apologize for who they are while others look down upon them.  There is a need for acceptance, tolerance, and understanding of our individual quirks or beliefs, our illnesses, and life experience.

However, I don’t believe that it was supposed to be an excuse to hurt people or behave in a cruel way.  “Well, you don’t want me to lie, do you….?” or some such remark to minimize the words and actions.

Being yourself in a world that is trying to change you, or expects you to look a certain way like a one-size-fits-all body, is a step of bravery.   Being cruel is not.  You may authentically be mean, but that is another story, and not one I would personally celebrate.

People are genuinely hurt, have broken hearts, and may struggle to live a good life.  When people ask how you are, and your reply is “Fantastic,” every single time, that is not necessarily authentic.  Life is not always perfect and there are ups and downs – not one individual is perfect all the time, not even in our sleep (look at how many snore or have sleep apnea!).

Emotional or physical pain is genuine, perhaps a given in certain circumstances, and having to lie about it or hide it is exhausting.  You may not respect or appreciate it as such, but pain is real and you cannot quantify how much it hurts another.

On the flipside, an authentic person doesn’t shy away from telling the truth in sincerity and vulnerability because expressing pain is not always negative.

Living an authentic life means deeply acknowledging what our values and priorities are and how we choose to express them.  It is appreciating a new way of thinking derived from introspection and awareness of one’s genuine goals or desires.  It is a way of behaving and operating from an internal barometer of truth and the underlying desire to seek and create restored faith in our humanity.

Being authentic means reviewing our own behavior and making necessary adjustments in our relationships with others; it is a reflection of the internal voice and the self.  When we believe so greatly in our ego that we feel we have the right to tell someone else how to live, be, and feel, we need to rethink what constitutes genuine compassion and empathy.

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quote_patience seeing past the emotion

When I saw the daily prompt word, many thoughts came to mind that combined patience, compassion, empathy….  and then considered that if I considered myself to be patient on occasion, my family would argue loudly that it just isn’t so.

So, then I chose to look up the official definition of “patience” to see if I might ever qualify.

noun
1. the quality of being patientas the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain,without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.
2. an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay:

to have patience with a slow learner.
3. quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence: to work with patience.

In the work that I do, I try very hard to have patience with some of those I encounter because they need my compassion.  With others, there is arrogance or entitlement or other characteristics that set me ticking, but as I withhold my tongue, doesn’t that count as patience too?

If one of the definitions is perseverance, then there is a history of patience.  Some may call it perseverance (and have quite kindly); to others it is stubbornness to step aside.  Long-term histories with people and places, despite many ups and downs, is an endeavor to apply perseverance in the form of a long term commitment to continue moving forward.

Saying a brief prayer before my philanthropic meetings for patience and compassion is a commitment as well to try to be fully present for those in front of me struggling with many tests of faith and existence.  When I have been complemented on my patience and how I spoke with them, I have let them know that there are those at home who would disagree…..

We each have a certain amount of patience and it comes out at different times. For me, it may not be when I am driving, nor when the level of nonsense and untruth exceeds my barometer for tolerance of such things, yet it is there for making a dough or searching for just the right recipe.

There is patience in trying to learn or continually consider, through introspection and thought, how to improve the quality of my life or myself.  It has been a long time and I still have much to learn and have not given up that search.

Trying to bite my tongue when someone is upset, or will not be convinced of my merit if I try to explain, is a form of patience.  It is allowing the other person to continue to express their opinion whether I agree with it or not.  It is a commitment to keep moving forward with a relationship that is meaningful to me and hoping that in time all will continue to improve.

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Today, I was thinking about resilience as we choose to keep moving forward while things around us seem to be stagnant, or worse, moving in the opposite direction from where we want to be.

We are strong, but pushing forward takes more energy and courage than most people know or will choose to recognize.  It is easy to put someone down, talk behind his back, bully, follow the crowd, take the easy road.  Fear of suffering and experience holds us back from reaching for a better future.  But, it is far more difficult and noteworthy to stand up and say “This is not who I am.  I know my truth and those people don’t actually know me.  They are just critics, but they will not stand in my way.  I will not be defeated because that would bring them more joy than seeing me succeed.”

May you find inspiration, a ray of sunshine, a welcoming smile, a kind word, hope……

I saw this post this morning and loved the quote by Paul Coelho.


“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams.” – Paulo Coelho I dare say that we are all afraid of suffering in one way or another – be it through pain, embarrassment, failure, or…

via Tell Your Heart That the Fear of Suffering Is Worse Than the Suffering Itself – Paulo Coelho — The Seeds 4 Life

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There are so many wonderful personality traits to embrace when we view them positively.

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