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i was quiet but i was not blind

This is one of many quotes that resonates with me.  I have been an observer all of my life and much of it has been of people.  As I have gotten older and lived through more experiences, I have been able to filter even more of those things that I have seen.  As an empathetic person, there have been people who have hurt, used (or misused), and abused my nature.  Wanting to believe the best of people can blind us to some and their true natures.  Since I could never imagine behaving that way, or treating another person in such a manner, it was shocking to me in the realization.

It has also become aware that people are not aware of the many aspects of their behavior that show over and over their nature and character beyond their words.  For example, someone who complains about the attention that they get and then does everything short of wearing spinning lights to get attention.  The words and actions do not correlate.

Another thing that has become clearer to me, over the years, is observing facial and body cues, and being able to understand without hearing the words how someone feels and how the communication is going.

That silence is a comfort for some who need some understanding and compassion without having to find the words, or speak about it before they are ready, to describe the hurt or loss that they have experienced.  At times, helping someone along by sharing that pain silently gives them strength and comfort.  If so, I am grateful to be able to provide such.

Being observant and empathic is a lot of stimulus.  Indeed, perhaps, life would be easier if I could turn away or not pay so much attention.  The aspects of my brain and personality just won’t do it.  I come from a long line of observers of human nature and whether through nature, or nurturing it over many years, this is who I am.  For those who seek it out, it is a compassion that they are grateful for.  To those who are interviewing, they have come to trust my opinion and confirmed what I have seen.

But, like many observers, seeing so much needs to be kept quiet, for the truth can be overwhelming for others who are not ready to see or have chosen to look away.

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I found this to be so encouraging.  Sometimes, we feel powerless or think that we are “stuck,” yet we have the power to create our own spirit within our daily lives to rise above those issues that cause our ego to feel pain.   Our choice is to remain among the bitter, or become one such person seeing them seemingly getting ahead by their bad behavior, or raise our standards above what others may understand.  It is for us, not for them, however, if our example should happen to lift another, we are more fortunate for that opportunity to be of courage and understanding.

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There are a lot of weary people out there, so tired of fighting for truth, justice, and love.  They have been beaten down at work and at home.  They have had their spirits wounded and carry that pain with them.

We live in a world where the idea of might makes right is actually rhetoric, dogged determination to crush another’s spirit, massive machinations and double dealing.   It is not enough to hurt someone, they must be conquered and vanquished as if this life were a Game of Thrones or some duel to the death scenario.

I keep hearing of those empathetic and sensitive souls, who in their idealism, have ended up trapped in lives with toxic and selfish people.  Ironically, these people want an end to conflict and will destroy themselves to create loving and collaborative relationships.  Sadly, even that is not enough for abusive or narcissistic people.  Seeing the frustration and tears, pushed to the breaking point, is actually part of the pleasure they derive.

Yet, there is great force in these underdogs.  They push themselves in silent strength and hopeful optimism that each day will be a new beginning with a desire for a more positive change in their lives.  This level of pushing at windmills, such brave and exhausting demands, coupled with determination to live their best life in all of its attendant colors, is nothing short of dynamic courage.

To each of you who begin each day afresh, keep your commitment to yourself and an improved life as a testament to your powerful efforts in a harsh world.  You are weary from the fight, but work harder than most to bring your light to others to create new beginnings for all.  Keep seeking those moments where you can breathe deeper, heal, and embrace the characteristics of kindness and compassion.  You have worked hard and you deserve them.

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Isn’t this true of every person as well?

 

The possibility of empathy and use of our imagination and compassion allows us to see and feel another’s experience and understand how it has affected them for better or worse. As empathetic people, we seek the beauty within.

 

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