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courage commitment to begin

There are a lot of weary people out there, so tired of fighting for truth, justice, and love.  They have been beaten down at work and at home.  They have had their spirits wounded and carry that pain with them.

We live in a world where the idea of might makes right is actually rhetoric, dogged determination to crush another’s spirit, massive machinations and double dealing.   It is not enough to hurt someone, they must be conquered and vanquished as if this life were a Game of Thrones or some duel to the death scenario.

I keep hearing of those empathetic and sensitive souls, who in their idealism, have ended up trapped in lives with toxic and selfish people.  Ironically, these people want an end to conflict and will destroy themselves to create loving and collaborative relationships.  Sadly, even that is not enough for abusive or narcissistic people.  Seeing the frustration and tears, pushed to the breaking point, is actually part of the pleasure they derive.

Yet, there is great force in these underdogs.  They push themselves in silent strength and hopeful optimism that each day will be a new beginning with a desire for a more positive change in their lives.  This level of pushing at windmills, such brave and exhausting demands, coupled with determination to live their best life in all of its attendant colors, is nothing short of dynamic courage.

To each of you who begin each day afresh, keep your commitment to yourself and an improved life as a testament to your powerful efforts in a harsh world.  You are weary from the fight, but work harder than most to bring your light to others to create new beginnings for all.  Keep seeking those moments where you can breathe deeper, heal, and embrace the characteristics of kindness and compassion.  You have worked hard and you deserve them.



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you are so nice its annoying


When you choose to operate out of concern and empathy for others and their feelings, you generate suspicion in those who don’t understand such a concept.  I have experienced the dissatisfaction of dealing with people who look for the easy, avoidant, and half-fast way, of doing things.  There are people who figure out the benefit to them and figure that everyone else has to clumsily peddle through, even if they are drowning.

I simply cannot fathom this kind of thinking.  My upbringing was public in some ways and we knew that how we behaved would reflect on our parents and family.  We were taught to be upright, share, think about how another might feel, and reach out to give a smile first.  Also, if your hands aren’t broken, think about the next person.

Today, I have found that this kind of attitude freaks some people out.  They don’t get it and figure that there must be something nasty lurking beneath the supposed façade that draws their ire and suspicion.  There is some perverse desire to convince others that it’s not all sunshine and rainbows (not that I think it all is, I am too introspective for that).   Have you had this experience?

My empathy is not based on anyone else’s expectation.  There are those who do expect it from me regardless of how they treat me; some people will take advantage of sensitive and empathetic personalities.  What can be a weakness is also a blessing.  I see and feel too much with concern about others’ needs, often more than my own.  But, I also recognize the signs of pain, embarrassment, fear, sadness, and desperation in others that requires a special and careful way of speaking to comfort.  My awareness and memory of peoples’ words, actions, behavior and energies means that I can assess things pretty quickly.  But, it would be nice to be wrong and see a person grow, improve or change for the better, and that is when I have hoped for too long for things to be different.

The hard part is when I try to seek the good, or trust deep down, that I would give no less of to people, and it is abused.

When someone told me that they have struggled to find nice people and that they weren’t letting go of me, I realized just what a confession and compliment that was.  So, in cases of suspicion, let me clarify:  I am not getting anything out of it.  My behavior is a reflection of my values and respect.  Yes, I really can be so concerned.  But, no, I cannot be taken advantage of indefinitely.  Sadly, what I have had to learn from suspicious people is that there is a reason they are so suspicious and it generally has nothing to do with me directly.

Approach me honestly, and openly, and I will return the effort while we both try to bring back some restored faith in humanity.

suspicious minds_tom hanks



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my to do list for today

I wrote this almost a year and a half ago. The past year and a half has been a divisive time in our history. My feeling is that I want to be inspired, and I believe that others do too, to remember that kindness exists. Seeing it, feeling it, and being the recipient of kindness is more warming than a sweet cup of cocoa on a bitterly cold day.

Our days in the Northern Hemisphere have become darker, in many ways, and we feel unheard and unseen in the midst of the chaos.

Kindness matters and everyone deserves it, not just a select few, or those who can benefit the most. We have good days and bad as life continues to move and change for each of us.

May we continue to witness goodness and to fill our hearts as we seek to share it with others.

via I believe in good. It is an elusive quality.

monday motivation_moving forward_henry ford

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