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We are on the precipice of a great and glorious future….. or so many commencement addresses have begun, or enticements to war.  At the start of a new job or a major life change, we stand at the steep edge of one position to make a great leap into another and untried experience.

Change can be good, yet many of us have to be dragged, kicking and screaming, to leave a bad situation to head into a new unknown.  Stepping out of a comfort zone is scary even when it is good for us.  We do stay in situations that are unhealthy, unproductive, and stagnant.  Some of our best skills and inherent traits go unused because they are undervalued or underexposed.

Yet, it is scary to step off that ledge into the vast abyss of doubt, fear, anxiety, and start anew. By nature, we are optimistic that things will work out, or money will arrive, or our health will hold out, or untested faith that all will occur rightly, as it should.

Taking chances, or choosing something new in our life, tests our endurance mentally and physically.  Despite the fear, there are the brave few who leap ~ precariously, judiciously, respectfully, and forcefully, to create change.  Embracing achievement and expanding our horizons means taking that first step.  But, it can be the start of something incredible and no matter how big, starts with that first shaky step to land on the other side of optimism, and simply begin…

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This time of year can be so difficult for those who are still grieving.  Whether it is a loss of a person that breaks your heart, or you are grieving a divorce, job loss, estrangement with a loved one, there is a hole in your spirit.

Being forced to attend parties during the time of mourning, I remember trying to slap a smile on my face; I kept telling myself to keep it on even if it hurt to pretend. But, after awhile, it was exhausting.  There was too much false praise and gaiety; the noise and celebration became too much for me, and I had to excuse myself to leave the room.

One of the hardest things while mourning is the guilt about laughter.  I remember how badly I felt if something might make me smile and that it was inappropriate to enjoy when my heart was broken.  Quiet, and time to restore your personal strength, is so important as you mourn.  I look back and realize just how long I was mourning; I also realized that while I tried to behave like a “normal” person, my brain was actually in a fog of grief.  During that time, my trust was abused. Vulnerable, and not strong enough to fight back, I was treated badly.  That, in hindsight, was a cruel lesson that I could not fully acknowledge or reconcile for a long time.

So, when given the chance to defend someone else, or create understanding, I felt that I had to.

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Grief takes time and mourning comes and goes.  No one can truly understand the memories that you share or the triggers that set off your emotional alarms.  Running to hide in the bathroom, or outside, to cry is understandable.  Yet, we are protecting others’ feelings while not honoring our own.

Miss the one that you love.  Accept, acknowledge, and process all the feelings that go with it. It is a private journey.

Empathize with another because you can recall pain.  If you are able to gently recognize this in another, don’t try to make someone else “snap out of it” or push them to a party. Busyness is not a healing tool.  Build in some quiet moments for another; sensory overload is too strong or overpowering at this time.

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Remember, that no one is immune from an overactive mind of memories, lost moments, and painful goodbyes.  Don’t feel that you are “supposed” to feel cheery, hearty, or joyous just because it is the Holidays. Surround yourself with kind people and avoid toxic or negative situations that will only aggravate and stress the depressed spirit you already are experiencing.  Use music if that is calming, or escape into a book, if you are a reader.  If the outdoors soothes you, take a walk or even just look at photos of beautiful places in nature. Distraction can help to calm the thoughts for a couple of minutes.

You deserve joy, compassion, kindness, understanding, and peace.  If you cannot find support, give it to yourself.  If you are grieving, it means that you have loved.

May you find personal peace and comfort at your own pace with the time to experience and seek it out.

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Are we writers because we live or do we live because we are writers?

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“We are all apprentices in a craft where no one ever becomes a master.”

– Ernest Hemingway

“And what, you ask, does writing teach us? First and foremost, it reminds us that we are alive and that it is a gift and a privilege, not a right.”

― Ray Bradbury, Zen in the Art of Writing

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”

― Maya Angelou, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings

“What really knocks me out is a book that, when you’re all done reading it, you wish the author that wrote it was a terrific friend of yours and you could call him up on the phone whenever you felt like it. That doesn’t happen much, though.”

― J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye

“If there’s a book that you want to read, but it hasn’t been written yet, then you must write it.”

― Toni Morrison

“If you don’t have time to read, you don’t have the time (or the tools) to write. Simple as that.”

― Stephen King

“Lock up your libraries if you like; but there is no gate, no lock, no bolt that you can set upon the freedom of my mind.”

― Virginia Woolf, A Room of One’s Own

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A book is a garden, an orchard, a storehouse, a party, a company by the way, a counsellor, a multitude of counsellors.
~Henry Ward Beecher


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The best of a book is not the thought which it contains, but the thought which it suggests; just as the charm of music dwells not in the tones but in the echoes of our hearts.
~Oliver Wendell Holmes

 

 

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