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Once you begin to use your humanity and empathy to look around you, you discover that those whom you love – as a friend, sister, neighbor, coworker, or other souls that you connect with – you recognize that you are both survivors and that is a connection of strength and acknowledgement.

Trauma comes in many different forms and scars form around our hearts.  No matter how positive we are or how “perfect” we try to be, there is no such thing.  Life brings us highs and lows; we experience feelings and scenarios that we never expected.  There is no vindication or justice.  Whether it is addressed in the world to come, or through Karma, or the passage of time…… our pain is real and the feelings that we have attached to our particular situation.

To anyone who is trying to continue to be strong, we feel our pain deeply at times when we face it head on.  Many may avoid it through different means and masks to stop feeling.  Others, need support for those times that they are dragged under in deep emotion, longing, despair, or perceived weakness.

True survivors, and those who continue to learn from their struggles and challenges, have learned that a trial by fire can enlighten.  We can lessen pain for someone else by sharing ours, or empathizing as no other can, by our shared humanity.

We know what it feels like to be estranged, traumatized, abused, mistreated, suffer, grieve, mourn, and experience loss in a myriad of ways.  Each time, it feels as if someone has asked us to remove a limb, a solid piece of our beating heart that feels as if it will never return or regenerate to make us whole again.

But, we can fill the spaces, however temporarily, by reaching out to another and acknowledging their fight and survival without diminishing it or labeling it.  We can merely hold their heart in our hands for a few moments and help to carry the too-heavy load for just awhile so that they do not have to walk alone.

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Keep going and look for the humor.  As long as we are able to find something to smile about, however quirky, like us, we can rise to any occasion with an untapped inner strength.
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Relationships are very important to me and family is a priority in this lifetime.  Reaching out to love, yet respect differences, and accept accountability yet moving forward instead of attacking the past, is the best that a rational and emotionally mature person can prefer.

Some love confrontation or nurturing their anger; It is not helpful to strengthening or maintaining any healthy communication and reinforces the hurt dysfunction.  The dynamics don’t improve and the wounds persist.

The largest act of rebellion is working to change the context in a messy and complicated situation to one of self-preservation and fighting as hard, for yourself, as you have for others.  It is not easy for one who cares so deeply and, certainly, I have been an easy and satisfying target for verbal attack.

Trying to shift a mindset and ingrained habit of behavior is very difficult.  Many of us have prescribed roles and distinctions of thinking, reinforced by others, that we are supposed to save everyone and fix every situation, or we are at fault.

Mature relationships take both sides willing to accept that we can love one another while still disagreeing.  Respecting each individual, instead of trying to continue to wound with past patterns of negativity, is the only healthy way to move forward.  Growth and self-esteem take time, but self-respect and willingness to walk away from someone else’s anger, as hard as it is to do, is the only way to take the first step.

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If we believe that G-d is in control and hears our prayers and that the Universe, at His Will, sends us what we need to hear, then my serendipitous find must be the message that I need to hear.

Clarity is always hard for me.  I think all the time – consider, rationalize, absorb, observe, process, and feel.  As an empath, if you are one, you absorb others’ pain and emotions and must try to block such strong feelings from overwhelming an already sensitive soul.

While cleaning thoroughly, I found an envelope with my first name on it.  I knew it by heart – it was my mother’s handwriting.

Her words were meaningful and in this lonely, confusing world of mixed messages and unrealized potential or opportunities, it was helpful to have a shoulder to lean upon and know that someone cared so much about me.

This was written 15 years ago.  That was a whirlwind time to be sure.  We had just experienced a year of major household moves, change of schools and job, major medical concerns and surgeries, life changing concerns for our children…….

We rack up life experiences, memories, and battle scars.  We carry burdens or dings to the heart and spirit, but we keep rising.  Each day, we begin again, and try to do the best that we can. Some days, we want to stay in bed, and that is OK too.  Restore, Recharge, Reveal, Re-examine, Review – whatever brings you peace and comfort has value.

I hope that this will bring you comfort as well.

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