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Sometimes, we are faced with an irony that seems impossible in light of the “facts.” Two people in their 20’s are convinced that I have the face, voice, and knowledge to be the authority of an online channel.  I speak with strength, commitment and passion; they feel that what I say comes across in a compelling way that will make people want to listen.  Some may be threatened, but others may respond with a hearty “Heck, yeah!”

How do I reconcile this with the reality presented to me by some others?  I have worked with people who said “don’t laugh” or “don’t talk.”  Umm.  Ok, no problem, I will just be loud in my head.  Did it silence my opinions or make me think any less deeply?  Of course not; I just didn’t express my thoughts where they weren’t wanted.

I have adult children who have definitely said “Stop. Please. Just Stop.”  Sometimes, people don’t like my face, my laugh, my presumed attitude, or whatever else offends them in their opinion.  Yet, these two younger people say they can tell that I am an interesting person to listen to??? Are they playing me? (they told me I used that term wrongly).

It’s a flattering thought to try to be a voice that wants to resonate with others. But, I am also aware that there are ramifications to being a semi-public voice.  Do I really want to be famous? In a word, No.  I have no desire to seek out fame and its less appealing downside.  As they say, there are no half packages, and ramifications exist in whatever choices we make.  Validation and approval is appealing to my ego, but, my privacy is important to me.  Still, I do seem to have a lot to say.

That seems to be the dichotomy – finding our voice – and whether we choose to honor it out loud, or question its validity internally?

voice_loud in my head

I know what I like and have no problem expressing it.  My reasoning and experience give me the right to form an opinion, but what is the right way to use it?

Does having a voice mean making sure that it is seen and heard? Or, does it mean honoring portions of it in how I behave towards others?   Is it the strength to speak up or to remain silent?

you cant find your voice if you don't use it

So, now, I am curious.  Do you seek out your crowd? Or, do you create an interest and let them bring themselves as a disparate but collectively united community?  Or, does finding your voice mean that you feel so true to yourself, that you don’t need the approval of others?  It is hard to be vulnerable, but could it help others who think that they are all alone in their feelings or thoughts?

Have you found your unique voice?  If so, how have you chosen to express it?  I really want to know and intend to keep this a non-toxic environment.  Because, if my voice can be heard, I want safety, empathy, respect, and kindness.  There is room enough for all ideas and more than one way to carve out a valid point of view.

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vulnerability_brene brown

When you are a highly sensitive person, there is a lot of misunderstanding.  It starts as a teen and people think that you are going through a phase of teenage angst.  Later, people like to say things to you that aren’t very nice, or sharp barbs pretending to be “just kidding” remarks, because you are an easy target.

But, it is always interesting to me that when people are going through their own “phase” of issues, they want someone to listen to them.  The highly sensitive person is the one who will; we may know that it may be self-created drama, but we listen anyway.  When someone is going through their own circumstance of the blues, or stress, despite our own, they look for us to vent.

Some complain that our weakness is that we care about things that don’t necessarily affect us.  I think that it is because our sense of justice and integrity is so strong, that we care about what happens to others in our community and on the other side of the world that causes pain and inequity.

Feeling things deeply isn’t just a phase.  It is a part of who we are, a piece of our heart and soul, as our mind processes the situation and remembers the tiny details.  While people like to call us “too sensitive” when they are feeling good, they seek out this characteristic when they want empathy.  Our sense of honesty is very high and we aren’t afraid to speak the truth.  That doesn’t mean people want to hear it, but we don’t forget.  Another characteristic is our long-term memory.

We have our own phases where the lack of humanity, and our desires to improve the situation or those affected, cause us to feel too much or carry the burden for too long.  But, we rise again with a core of personal strength to prepare ourselves to empathize and listen again.

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/phase/

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