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so many candles so little cake

It is January 26th – The day after January 25th. So far you are obviously impressed with my superior manipulation of the obvious.

However, my days truly are numbered and the day after the 25th suddenly becomes more weighted with emotion and consternation. Yesterday, my youngest child turned 18; a big achievement and a milestone for us all. However, while I was happy to hear that it was his best birthday ever, it brought reality crashing into the 26th.

This best birthday had nothing to do with me. He is away at school and happy with his teachers, dorm mates and looking forward to bench pressing at the gym.

I brought him into the world and he is more than ready to fly. In fact, he would fly just about anywhere rather than home. No, I am not being maudlin or feeling sorry for myself, it is simply the truth.  His days of adventure and the freedom to travel, without permission slips as a minor, are stacking up like his collection of boxed basketball shoes.

My kids are more powerful and independent and I am more tired. This may be the cycle of things, but it is still scary to see the unknown third act.  Arthritis is setting into my joints as my son bench presses 900 pounds with his legs.  He cannot get his clothes tight enough and I cannot get mine loose.

He tells me that the ability to push off so much weight is all in the mind.  How did the 18 year old figure this out when I cannot? So, it is January 26th, the first day of the rest of my life with “adult children”. Truly, a Mother’s oxymoron if I ever heard one.


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I know I am behind (har har) on adding these photos and awards to my blog, so I will try to catch up.

For some, they are the WordPress community’s form of Spam and Chain mailings.  I don’t always participate as I feel why would anyone want to hear my answers? But, the person who nominated me, Miss IttyMac, has been incredibly gracious, supportive, flattering and encouraging since I began blogging a year ago. She is poetic, wise and wonderfully funny and honest. She is brilliant and has a quirky sense of humor so you can see why I enjoy her “company” so much.

There are wonderfully strong, funny, honest and vulnerable women here who touch my heart and my mind and say the things I wish I could at times.

~ ~The Rules ~ ~

  1. Provide a link to and thank the blogger who nominated you for this award.
  2. Answer ten questions.
  3. Nominate 10-12 blogs that you find a joy to read. Provide links to these nominated blogs and kindly let the recipients know they have been nominated.
  4. Include the award logo within your blog post.


1.  Your favorite color….    Red

2.  Your favorite animal … Cookie Monster

3.  Your favorite non-alcoholic drink …. Diet Dr. Pepper

4.    Facebook or Twitter….. Facebook for the photos

5.    Your favorite pattern …..  Houndstooth

6.    Do you prefer getting or giving presents…. Both!!

7.    Your favorite number … 4

8.    Your favorite day of the week … Payday

9.    Your favorite flower …. Calla Lilies

10.  What is your passion? ….. There are many things I enjoy, like reading and cookies, but I am truly passionate about being a grandmother! What a joy and blessing.

This list is in no particular order whatsoever so please don’t be hurt or offended.

There are many more terrific writers and the personal musings tag is a great way to find new sources of inspirations.  Thank you all for reading, following, posting, commenting, and inspiring.


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I saw this and thought: YES! I will not speak for you, but I can tell you that I have had more than my fair share of false, phony, narcissistic, and superficial.

The people I want to talk to are honest, forthright, have opinions, experiences, ideas and adventures. They are not afraid of their own mistakes or admitting that they have some.  Who wants to spend time on nonsense? Let our words make a difference and our conversations be engaging, amusing, enlightening, thought-provoking, gut wrenching, soul lifting, brain enhancing and fun!!

lessons learned i hate small talk

The RSA recently put out an animated video of Empathy vs. Sympathy that went viral. In fact, if you put the information in a Search Engine, you can find hundreds of links to it.

That put me on a search for Empathy in other videos and film shorts. There are some fascinating examples of animation from Cal Arts and short videos and excerpts.  Many Hollywood film productions go for the dramatic, exacting our sympathy with harsh tragedies and weeping grief and dying.  They pull out our tears with the obvious. Empathy can be a little more complex *like the Empathy Queen herself* and make you think some more about the topic.

This delightful short will explain Empathy and put a smile on your face (at least I hope it will). If you feel like I do, by all means, share or leave a comment.


A good post reaches for your heart and remains on your mind.

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