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“Believe me, every heart has its secret sorrows, which the world knows not, and oftentimes we call a man cold, when he is only sad.”

– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, Hyperion

broken heart

Grief is not a competition.  Sadness has no limit.  Physical or mental pain is not on a scale in comparison to any other individual.

Again and again, I am reminded that people who have not experienced what we have, feel that they are entitled to tell you how long, how much, or how valid your feelings are.  Can you tell me why I don’t like eggplant?  Can you tell me why I don’t like the color brown?  Of course not; we are individuals with a lifetime of experience and determination of our needs, likes, dislikes and depth of emotion and intuition.

Some people are very vocal about every ache and pain.  Others hide it in shame or fear.

You are entitled to your pain and grieving.  No matter how much time has passed, if you are still mourning, no one has the right to tell you to “get over it.”  Some heartaches never go away.

If you are in pain today, I hope you are sent healing.  If you are mourning, I hope that you find some comfort, or at least a hand to hold while you cry.  If you are feeling so alone in your sadness or grief, please know that anyone else who has actually experienced a great loss will never try to silence yours, but will understand that some wounds never heal.  

You are still putting one foot in front of another.  You are a survivor.

 

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Thank you for stopping by.  I hope that you find comfort here.

In memory of Mom.

trees and reflected roots

 

Kindness_amelia earhart.jpg

 

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pause quote

 

Why do people rush to condemn, but pause rather than speak up?

Why do people run with gossip, but remain silent, when a compliment could be given?

Why do some people pause when they have a chance to help and defend?

A pause to judgment is fine if you use the break to reflect and consider all sides.  A pause in speaking that allows you to listen, and empathize with another, is a gift.  Pausing to satisfy your own needs, while sharing with someone else, feeds the body and soul of another.

I have consciously worked to pause my speaking, told myself to hold back, rather than to respond in anger in the moment.  Yet, that pause was perceived as validation to someone else’s lie.

How do we stay strong in a moment of quiet against a bully whose bluster seeks to blow us down?  How do we create a space to begin or maintain healing when we pause in fear and doubt?

A pause is an opportunity to reflect and reconsider.  But, how do we make it meaningful?

What can I accomplish as I pause in my day?  How can I improve myself when I remove the distractions and detractors?

There can be joy and gratitude in pausing to reflect and look around us.  We pause to remember.  But, how do I strengthen myself in my pauses to fill those empty spaces?

pause to write

 

These are some of the questions that give me pause…  how deeply I struggle for understanding and peace.

 

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Thank you for stopping by.   How do you use your pauses to refresh?

 

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balloons afloat

 

Being sensitive to our environment, and to other people, empathetic and empathic people feel the energy of the people around them.  There are those who speak to us and we can sense the black cloud that comes with them.  Others may speak, but detachment, or lack of authenticity, reaches us first.

When we spend time with genuine and sincere people, our spirits rise ~ it is a weight lifted off of us and joy and gratitude raise us up like floating balloons carrying us forward.

It is in such striking contrast to many of our daily interactions, that it cannot help but to be felt.  Acknowledging that for me this week brought such a feeling of gratitude.  It made me realize that it is a rare and wonderful gift to be aware of the best from those around me and how welcoming their friendship and kindness can truly be.

friendship and kindness

 

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Thank you for stopping by!  I hope that you enjoy your visit and find your moment of joy.

 

This photo was taken by me when we released balloons in memory of my mother, for Mother’s Day, two weeks after she died.

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