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courage commitment to begin

There are a lot of weary people out there, so tired of fighting for truth, justice, and love.  They have been beaten down at work and at home.  They have had their spirits wounded and carry that pain with them.

We live in a world where the idea of might makes right is actually rhetoric, dogged determination to crush another’s spirit, massive machinations and double dealing.   It is not enough to hurt someone, they must be conquered and vanquished as if this life were a Game of Thrones or some duel to the death scenario.

I keep hearing of those empathetic and sensitive souls, who in their idealism, have ended up trapped in lives with toxic and selfish people.  Ironically, these people want an end to conflict and will destroy themselves to create loving and collaborative relationships.  Sadly, even that is not enough for abusive or narcissistic people.  Seeing the frustration and tears, pushed to the breaking point, is actually part of the pleasure they derive.

Yet, there is great force in these underdogs.  They push themselves in silent strength and hopeful optimism that each day will be a new beginning with a desire for a more positive change in their lives.  This level of pushing at windmills, such brave and exhausting demands, coupled with determination to live their best life in all of its attendant colors, is nothing short of dynamic courage.

To each of you who begin each day afresh, keep your commitment to yourself and an improved life as a testament to your powerful efforts in a harsh world.  You are weary from the fight, but work harder than most to bring your light to others to create new beginnings for all.  Keep seeking those moments where you can breathe deeper, heal, and embrace the characteristics of kindness and compassion.  You have worked hard and you deserve them.



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We choose with our head, but when we feel it in our spirit or heart – whether for our good or not – we know.  Trusting our instincts and intuition may be used optionally, but we learn again and again that examining our feelings is part of who we are in the workplace.  We are whole people; the bottom line doesn’t reflect that.  Only you can…


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More often than not, our lives don’t turn out the way that we envision.  Whether for good or bad, things change.  They always do, one way another, if we continue to do so.  Some people are happy with things as they are; others always dream of more and want to be inspired or find something to be excited about to awaken their creativity.

Some people play in a band, join a hockey or bowling league, or any other number of hobbies outside of their work life or daily exchanges.  It is important to find something that awakens our brain cells and engages us in enthusiasm.  There are so many artistic outlets that people have like photography, painting, crafting, renovating….. any number of DIY projects that add a spark to the daily necessities and business of life.

For me, I find wonder in things that others may deem mundane or without merit.  However, I need to find things that use my passions and bring satisfaction at seeing what I have brought forth.  To bring peace and pleasure to the mundane, looking for things that can bring us to wonder and happiness, even for a short time, allow us to dream more creatively and fill our spirits with Hope.


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One of the saddest sounds you will  hear is crying….  Genuine heart-wrenching sobs of helplessness, pain, fear, sadness.

I heard someone sobbing in the restroom at work, but I did not want to disturb her privacy.  A few minutes later, I saw her and asked how she was.  I did let her know that I heard her crying and was very empathetic to her situation.  It was heart-breaking to hear about the repeated bullying and terrible things that were said to her, but she deserved to be heard.  Words and actions can cause scars that are invisible from the outside.  She is a very strong person in her character and her faith, but everyone has a breaking point.  Sadly, all I could do was listen.

As emotionally and mentally mature and empathetic human beings, our instinct is to help, to heal, or to stand up for others who are unable to stand up for themselves.  We would never stand idly by while a child was bullied, yet millions of us do everyday while adults suffer these experiences on the job.

When I saw that the daily prompt was “Fact” I began writing this post.  I hesitated for the same reason that others do – no one wants retaliation, further abuse in the job, or having their employment threatened, and I did not know if I should mention it.  I experienced the same fear and anxiety about the topic, but another said that I should write the post and share the information. It certainly saddens me to see someone suffer so.   I felt that I had to see the facts for myself.

The employee walks on eggshells and is fearful of what is to come.  This is not healthy and certainly not conducive to a positive work environment. The choice for the target who cannot speak up is to leave; that does not resolve the lingering effects, or doubt, and creates a hole in a business to be filled by looking for someone new and training that individual.  That learning curve costs a company financially as well.

“Workplace bullying is on the rise.  While statistics vary, some studies reveal that nearly half of all American workers have been affected by workplace bullying, either as a target or as a witness to abusive behavior against a coworker.”

From the Workplace Bullying Institute:

Key Findings

• 19% of Americans are bullied, another 19% witness it
• 61% of Americans are aware of abusive conduct in the workplace
• 60.4 million Americans are affected by it
• 70% of perpetrators are men; 60% of targets are women
• Hispanics are the most frequently bullied race
• 61% of bullies are bosses, the majority (63%) operate alone
• 40% of bullied targets are believed to suffer adverse health effects
• 29% of targets remain silent about their experiences
• 71% of employer reactions are harmful to targets
• 60% of coworker reactions are harmful to targets
• To stop it, 65% of targets lose their original jobs
• 77% of Americans support enacting a new law
• 46% report worsening of work relationships, post-Trump election

The statistic is terrifying: Over 60 million people in the U.S. alone are impacted as targets or witnesses! I was shocked to see the statistics and the number of workers affected.  Yet, most times, it continues although others agree, witness silently, then walk away thankful that it is not them and out of fear for their own jobs.  So the cycle of abuse continues.  Most acts of verbal abuse, mobbing, isolation, and false rumors and lies are never reported.  Witnesses agree and observe the behaviors, but fear of getting involved or gratitude that it is not them affected, keeps anyone from taking action.

This information comes from the UK:

Mental Healthy takes a look at the facts, figures and real life stories which show that bullying in the workplace is a very real and serious problem for many adults today.

Did you know that…

  • 1 in 10 workers had been bullied in the past six months
  • 1 in 4 workers had been bullied in the last five years
  • 47% of workers had witnessed bullying at work.
  • There is almost an equal number of men and women who have reported bullying

(According to a large UK study on bullying at work published in 2000 by the University of Manchester Institute of Science and Technology (UMIST) and supported by the TUC)


workplace bullying infographic

It is not my nature to sit idly by while someone is affected; if there is something that can be done, I always want to take positive action to improve the situation.  Silenced targets have the same emotional, mental and physical symptoms of those who are victims of domestic abuse.  Understandably, people are angry and stressed with increased pressure in the business and financial world, however  bullying, demeaning, falsely accusing, spreading rumors and gossip, and threatening one’s employment is never appropriate behavior.

To read more about workplace bullying, you can review the following sites:





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