Those people that tell you to listen to their negativity because it is for your own good?
It is not. It is for their own good. The better to manipulate with, my dear.
Those people who tell you that constructive criticism is important for self-growth? When was the last time you saw them accepting such necessary need for self-growth? Also, if there was nothing positive in the message then it was not constructive, it was destructive.
Our most basic understanding of life forms tells us that roots need room to run deep and flowers need to face the sun. They require nurturing, the necessity of water, the life force, time, and the right environment to flourish and thrive.
That person in your life that says it is all your fault and that if you speak again, you will be treated in some punitive way, is not giving you even the barest of conditions for growth.
It is scary; most people have doubts, questions, and insecurities. The ones that admit it, make room for others to express themselves, and seek to create a better environment for all. Those that don’t admit it, and repeatedly tell you that you deserve such treatment, are manipulative. Those people are not honest or looking at their own need for improvement or acceptance of how the person they became today was formed yesterday.
Consider ~ are the messages that you are receiving benefiting you, or someone else?
If it was coming from love, or compassion, you would feel comforted and peaceful. But, you realize that your interal discomfort and distrust is because it reminds you of another false message. Trust your instincts and your brain when you realize it is a message that has been relayed and replayed before. Know that you deserve better than that, and being on your own, is preferable to living in someone else’s isolation. Behave with integrity and dignity. Be sincere in your compliments and seek to raise someone else up rather than only yourself. Real dignity means extending it to someone else, or to yourself, when you realize it is time for a change. Change is not easy, but it is critical to step out of the shade.
Consider this – those that make fun of such type of thoughts are showing their true character. Their lack of trust, suspicion and arrogance has nothing to do with you. You did not make them behave that way. It is their behavior, not yours, that creates a lack of balance.
Suspicion and anger create a lack; Faith and belief know that abundance is never limited.
You have the opportunity to improve the level of the world in a group, or one-to-one, but at least you are making the effort and room for all who want to strengthen their roots. You are taking a step to face the sun.
Thank you so much for visiting. I would love to hear your positive comments (there is too much negativity already). 🙂