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Those people that tell you to listen to their negativity because it is for your own good?

It is not. It is for their own good. The better to manipulate with, my dear.

Those people who tell you that constructive criticism is important for self-growth? When was the last time you saw them accepting such necessary need for self-growth?  Also, if there was nothing positive in the message then it was not constructive, it was destructive.

Our most basic understanding of life forms tells us that roots need room to run deep and flowers need to face the sun.  They require nurturing, the necessity of water, the life force, time, and the right environment to flourish and thrive.

That person in your life that says it is all your fault and that if you speak again, you will be treated in some punitive way, is not giving you even the barest of conditions for growth.

It is scary; most people have doubts, questions, and insecurities.  The ones that admit it, make room for others to express themselves, and seek to create a better environment for all.  Those that don’t admit it, and repeatedly tell you that you deserve such treatment, are manipulative.  Those people are not honest or looking at their own need for improvement or acceptance of how the person they became today was formed yesterday.

Consider ~ are the messages that you are receiving benefiting you, or someone else?

If it was coming from love, or compassion, you would feel comforted and peaceful. But, you realize that your interal discomfort and distrust is because it reminds you of another false message. Trust your instincts and your brain when you realize it is a message that has been relayed and replayed before. Know that you deserve better than that, and being on your own, is preferable to living in someone else’s isolation. Behave with integrity and dignity. Be sincere in your compliments and seek to raise someone else up rather than only yourself. Real dignity means extending it to someone else, or to yourself, when you realize it is time for a change. Change is not easy, but it is critical to step out of the shade.

Consider this – those that make fun of such type of thoughts are showing their true character. Their lack of trust, suspicion and arrogance has nothing to do with you. You did not make them behave that way. It is their behavior, not yours, that creates a lack of balance.

Suspicion and anger create a lack; Faith and belief know that abundance is never limited.

You have the opportunity to improve the level of the world in a group, or one-to-one, but at least you are making the effort and room for all who want to strengthen their roots. You are taking a step to face the sun.

Bravo!

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Daily Prompt:
Litmus, Litmus on the Wall
If you had to come up with ONE question, the answer to which would determine whether or not you could be friends with a person you’ve just met, what would it be? What would the right answer be?

“Do you consider yourself to be empathetic?”

Firstly, if someone does not know what empathy is, then I know this person is simply not going to understand the priorities in my life.

Secondly, most people who are truly empathetic will not reply with a simple “Yes.”

There is no other defined response; an empathetic person will express themselves with enthusiasm, passion and compassion. Once someone starts speaking, you learn very quickly about what makes her heart beat, her soul expand, and her mind start ticking. You are assured of a great conversation with a quirky sense of humor, a strong sense of loyalty, and a desire to help others.

An open mind, eyes facing out to the world, with an awareness of the needs of others, and a willingness to help is a special person in my humble opinion.

Kindness and compassion are lifelong traits, not only developed late in life. So, I know that the person will have an interesting history and honesty about life and its ups and downs. Also, he/she will have great manners and offer a smile to someone just because….This is someone who can understand the power of caring and sharing the load in good times and bad.

That is the kind of person whom I would want for a friend!

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the strongest women cry

To every wonderful woman I know and those I have met here, you face your battles and life head on everyday. You never back away from a challenge or walk away unwilling to try. You grieve, you laugh, you live, you nurture, you care, and you feel more than most people. You are the reason I am so blessed to have readers and followers that I never thought I would have and am so grateful to hear your feedback and appreciate your approval and kindness more than you know. Thank you to all of you!!

You are more than the sum of your parts, you are all the Sum of your Hearts. ❤

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p.s. I see the grammatical error but could not change it. But I heartily endorse the sentiment.

Daily Prompt: In Reason to Believe, Bruce Springsteen sings, “At the end of every hard-earned day / people find some reason to believe.” What’s your reason to believe?

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At the end of everyday there is a reason to believe. I certainly don’t know what it is, but that is a repetitive self-mantra: I must be here for a reason.

There are many challenges that we each face in our work, family and lives. If we believe in a Divine system of guidance, then we believe that there is a plan in the world even if we cannot see it. We each play a role in the World that remains unseen until our physical lives end and we go back to discover who we were and who we are, what could have been achieved differently, and the ripples of our actions in the Universe. That is part of my reason to believe.

In the work that I do, working with charity and so many personalities, it can be very frustrating or hurtful. As I have jokingly told people, I don’t go back to my office and cry as often as I used to. It is necessary for me to open my head and my heart in trying to fulfill this commandment to the best of my ability. It is not that I have become insensitive to people’s difficult situations. Rather, I am trying to be better at the ability to separate myself from absorbing all of their pain and energy (at least sometimes). Other times, the best that I can do for people is to listen to their life stories, their heartaches, or provide the tissues when they cry.

Some of the people I meet are genuinely kind and lovely people. Others feel entitled and have a huge chip on their shoulders. They are so used to rejection, and fighting for what they need, that they come to me already squared off for battle. I would like to think that I am one of the easiest people that they will deal with on their journey; I will not belittle someone’s situation, nor blame them. If I am to represent someone else’s goodwill and faith, then I must do it in the most empathetic way possible.

I am not a stranger to Life’s ups and downs, but I have to keep going. If I am going to be there to support the needs of the thousands of people that I have met, and the thousands more that they help, I must be here for a reason and have to believe that — despite the less fortunate parts of my work.

My brother shared an expression with me early in my career when I questioned how much I could affect people and effect positive change. He said that G-d puts good things through the hands of good people and therefore, I needed to remember that if I was placed in this position, I must be someone pretty special.

My husband knows the difficulties and is still proud of me and the work that I do. He feels that it is important and very special. His support and encouragement are just as important to me as they are to those whom I can pass it along.

The people that I meet tell me that I will no doubt be blessed for the good works that I do. My response is that I don’t count my chickens, I will just let G-d keep track of the eggs in my basket.

Each of our lives brings us to places and situations that make us question the validity and need for such personal struggles and demands. But, in times of trouble, when I still look to find a reason to believe or find clarity about the low points, I have to take a deep breath, put on a smile, and remember that I must be here for a reason.

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