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knowing when to walk away

Those people that tell you to listen to their negativity because it is for your own good?

It is not. It is for their own good. The better to manipulate with, my dear.

Those people who tell you that constructive criticism is important for self-growth? When was the last time you saw them accepting such necessary need for self-growth?  Also, if there was nothing positive in the message then it was not constructive, it was destructive.

Our most basic understanding of life forms tells us that roots need room to run deep and flowers need to face the sun.  They require nurturing, the necessity of water, the life force, time, and the right environment to flourish and thrive.

That person in your life that says it is all your fault and that if you speak again, you will be treated in some punitive way, is not giving you even the barest of conditions for growth.

It is scary; most people have doubts, questions, and insecurities.  The ones that admit it, make room for others to express themselves, and seek to create a better environment for all.  Those that don’t admit it, and repeatedly tell you that you deserve such treatment, are manipulative.  Those people are not honest or looking at their own need for improvement or acceptance of how the person they became today was formed yesterday.

Consider ~ are the messages that you are receiving benefiting you, or someone else?

If it was coming from love, or compassion, you would feel comforted and peaceful. But, you realize that your interal discomfort and distrust is because it reminds you of another false message. Trust your instincts and your brain when you realize it is a message that has been relayed and replayed before. Know that you deserve better than that, and being on your own, is preferable to living in someone else’s isolation. Behave with integrity and dignity. Be sincere in your compliments and seek to raise someone else up rather than only yourself. Real dignity means extending it to someone else, or to yourself, when you realize it is time for a change. Change is not easy, but it is critical to step out of the shade.

Consider this – those that make fun of such type of thoughts are showing their true character. Their lack of trust, suspicion and arrogance has nothing to do with you. You did not make them behave that way. It is their behavior, not yours, that creates a lack of balance.

Suspicion and anger create a lack; Faith and belief know that abundance is never limited.

You have the opportunity to improve the level of the world in a group, or one-to-one, but at least you are making the effort and room for all who want to strengthen their roots. You are taking a step to face the sun.

Bravo!

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Daily Prompt:
Litmus, Litmus on the Wall
If you had to come up with ONE question, the answer to which would determine whether or not you could be friends with a person you’ve just met, what would it be? What would the right answer be?

“Do you consider yourself to be empathetic?”

Firstly, if someone does not know what empathy is, then I know this person is simply not going to understand the priorities in my life.

Secondly, most people who are truly empathetic will not reply with a simple “Yes.”

There is no other defined response; an empathetic person will express themselves with enthusiasm, passion and compassion. Once someone starts speaking, you learn very quickly about what makes her heart beat, her soul expand, and her mind start ticking. You are assured of a great conversation with a quirky sense of humor, a strong sense of loyalty, and a desire to help others.

An open mind, eyes facing out to the world, with an awareness of the needs of others, and a willingness to help is a special person in my humble opinion.

Kindness and compassion are lifelong traits, not only developed late in life. So, I know that the person will have an interesting history and honesty about life and its ups and downs. Also, he/she will have great manners and offer a smile to someone just because….This is someone who can understand the power of caring and sharing the load in good times and bad.

That is the kind of person whom I would want for a friend!

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if u want happiness

Have you ever heard something that made your mouth drop open? I have — until I close it, realizing that I look like a trout waiting for the hook.

As an empathetic idealist (I have the Kersey and Myers Briggs to back that up) certain scheming behaviors simply don’t occur to me. It is not that I am dumb, although some might think that I am a naïve simpleton, but actually I am too busy looking at faces, energy, spirit, psychology and the mysteries of the mind. It does not occur to me to look for the “fast track” to get ahead or how to make my next dollar.

Don’t get me wrong, my debt is crippling like everyone else I know.

I have the capacity to get angry, outraged, and incensed like other people. My ego is solidly planted and justice is very important to me. I have plenty of opinions and knowledge and I am not afraid to use them.

However, when you are looking up, and looking out to others, you are not focusing on material goods. You are thinking about empathy, kindness, compassion, caring and lightening someone else’s load. The most amazing people we have ~ teachers, social workers, nonprofit and charitable employees, volunteers, therapists, nurses, soldiers ~ are compensated so poorly for the level of heart and effort that they put into all that they do for others. They are too compassionate, and wired for empathy, to turn away. The funds are not there and they struggle to support their families. But, they do it anyway.

Others figure out how to get the best deal and all the back doors to “success.” How do we measure success? Is it only by the bankbook? There are children who grow up wanting to be rock stars or multi-millionaires. Others want to be policemen and firemen. They want to be teachers and artists. They want to help others and seek employment doing just that even though they are not compensated well for all that they do for others.

There are many lists that measure the richest and the most powerful. Magazines are devoted to the wealthy life and hotels that cost more per night than most people make in a month. They are indeed beautiful, and it would be very nice. Ahhhhh… but apparently I was meant to work for the money I have in this lifetime.

The wealthy that impress me are the altruistic and philanthropic ones who genuinely want to see improvement in the world. They are ambassadors and fighters for the needs of those suffering, in numerous ways, all around the world. They want to improve education in the classroom and bring opportunities for growth and job opportunities. They have achieved staggering levels of income but they are also giving extraordinary amounts to help others. It may be a tax deduction, but how you give charity shows if you really care about it.

Some people are experts at all the dirty tricks and prioritize them. It did not occur to me to look for the lowest common denominator.

Sorry, — I am an idealist and I am too busy looking up!

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the strongest women cry

To every wonderful woman I know and those I have met here, you face your battles and life head on everyday. You never back away from a challenge or walk away unwilling to try. You grieve, you laugh, you live, you nurture, you care, and you feel more than most people. You are the reason I am so blessed to have readers and followers that I never thought I would have and am so grateful to hear your feedback and appreciate your approval and kindness more than you know. Thank you to all of you!!

You are more than the sum of your parts, you are all the Sum of your Hearts. ❤

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p.s. I see the grammatical error but could not change it. But I heartily endorse the sentiment.

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